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Switch to in person conversations | Rehearse pausing and taking a breath before responding/commenting |
introduce novelty and change subject | use a phrase that will help change the subject back to a less triggering topic |
Instead of having a direct phone conversation, use text messages to allow time to think before writing a response. | |
suggest discussing positives from the week | create a habit of asking clarification questions |
Meet in person | set a meeting every other week |
Change topic | Parent hangs up |
Have an alternative response | |
Talk to your parent in a location that you love, or walk while talking to your parent. | Choose to take a deep breath before responding, place a reminder on your phone screen while talking to your parent, such as replacing the picture when they call to Just breath so you're able to look at the textual prompt throughout the conversation. |
change the way you respond | antecedent straegies |
Listen to the parent work together to find solutions. | Write new goals based on the parents suggestions. |
sandwiching the topic with a positive with a negative. | using calming techniques before responding. |
take a pause befre responding. | |
take a deep breath | have a discussion regarding defensive behaviour? |
Use humour before making the suggestion | Use self guided problem solving (parent can ask for person's ideas instead of making suggestions) |
Repeating back what the parent suggested, and stating that they will research it and get back to them. | N/A? |
tell the parent they aren't looking for solutions, but want to vent | novelty |
Pause and write down thoughts before responding | BST and modeling |
Different order of steps | Task analysis of steps |
Maybe rephrase what the parent makes a suggestion. | Yes. |
State the progress that has been made and change the subject. | Discuss a memory or activity they both like |
take phone calls during times of minimal stress; develop positive tolerance phrases; introduce stress relief ball to squeeze | extinction |
facetime instead of phone call | reminders to not get defensive |
Instead of making suggestions, ask for input | |
make it a game. each time a parent makes a suggestion put a tally mark down so you recognize its happening and have more time to think about a response rather than responding out of habit. When you call your mom hold a picture of you and parent when you were little to remember they want the best for you and cause you to think more about what you say. | If you do not respond with a comment that makes a fight then reward yourself with a candy after. |
Avoid phone discussions | Topic change |
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