Resource Sharing:  Create and Share a Vignette

Vignettes for application
1. Look at the people who are talking
2. Wait for a point when no one else is talking
3. Make a short, relevant comment that relates to the topic discussed
4. Give other people a chance to participate
1. Look at the person
2. Ask the person in he or she can help you
3. Clearly describe the problem or what kind of help you need
4. Thank the person for helping you

akam                                                                                                             October 17, 2018 at 9:32 am

Joining in a conversation

Your parents are talking about what to cook for dinner. You would like to go out to a restaurant instead. Use the joining in conversation skill.


cooley.annie                                                                                                             October 16, 2018 at 11:46 am

Asking for help

Your hands are full and you need the door open. You wait for a person to walk by and ask “Can you please open the door for me?”


Guidrysally                                                                                                             October 15, 2018 at 12:47 pm

Joining in a conversation

It’s break time and your math study group begins talking about Voodoo fest. You know the Foo Fighters are performing and that is your favorite band. Use the joining in conversation skill.


svanlathanith                                                                                                             October 15, 2018 at 12:34 pm

Asking for help

You are on the playground and your shoe has come untied. You are worried you might trip and fall. You see a recess monitor who is not busy. Use your ‘asking for help skill’.


jcmerideth                                                                                                             October 14, 2018 at 11:17 pm

Joining in a conversation

You are sitting with a group of classmates and lunch, and they are talking about a funny thing that happened in class last week. You weren’t there when it happened. Use the Joining in a Conversation Skill.


Sabina                                                                                                             October 7, 2018 at 4:26 pm

Joining in a conversation

Your friends are drawing at the table but they look like they are almost finished. You want to play a board game and you need two more players. Use the Joining in Conversation Skill.


ShanaReilly                                                                                                             October 5, 2018 at 10:20 pm

Asking for help

It’s your turn to feed the class pet but you can’t open the food container. Use your ask for help skills.


brianna                                                                                                             October 1, 2018 at 3:08 pm

Asking for help

It’s your first day at a new school and you can’t find your homeroom class. Use your asking for help skills.


euricguerrero                                                                                                             September 29, 2018 at 9:20 pm

Joining in a conversation

You are at McDonald’s and you would like a quarter pounder, but with Big Mac sauce. You want to know how much the it costs to have this sauce. Use the Joining in on a Conversation Skill.


LyndseyNunes                                                                                                             September 28, 2018 at 3:44 pm

Joining in a conversation

You are walking down the hall and see your best friend talking with other students.


karmil21                                                                                                             September 19, 2018 at 1:57 pm

Joining in a conversation

At recess, your friends are talking about a basketball game from the night before. You watched the basketball game too. Use the joining a conversation skill.


jose.monseco                                                                                                             September 14, 2018 at 8:08 am

Asking for help

You are at a friends house and you need go to the bathroom but the door is locked.Use your asking for helps.


Deborah                                                                                                             September 11, 2018 at 11:48 pm

Other social skill

Asking for personal space

1. Make sure you have the persons attention (they are looking at you)
2. State that you need “personal space” in a indoor voice volume
3. Take a step away from them

A friend is standing too close to you, you feel like you would like them to get away. Use “asking for personal space”


Demetria Contreras                                                                                                             September 10, 2018 at 11:41 pm

Joining in a conversation

You are at a conference and over hear your colleagues discussing investment opportunities. You’ve just opened an Acorns account and want to know how else to invest you money. 1)You make eye contact with the colleague you know best and 2) wait for a lull in the conversation and say,3) “I just opened an Acorns account and would love your advice on finding other investment opportunities.” 4) Pause to allow Colleague to shares info.


Amanda Dixon                                                                                                             September 10, 2018 at 1:42 pm

Teacher and students are deciding what game to play next. Client wants to contribute/state what he would like to do. Use the Joining in a conversation skill.


enlaberge                                                                                                             September 9, 2018 at 10:20 pm

Joining in a conversation

Client is eating dinner with his family – adults are making plans for the weekend and client wants to contribute/state what he would like to do. Use the Joining in a conversation skill!


jnieberding14                                                                                                             September 9, 2018 at 6:56 pm

Asking for help

You finish your worksheet in class and forgot what the next step is. You look around and see some of your friends look like they are done as well. Use your asking for help skills.


hemovi                                                                                                             September 5, 2018 at 11:21 pm

Joining in a conversation

You see a movie with your friends. You want to talk with them about fantastic scece of the movie.


npadilla                                                                                                             September 5, 2018 at 4:36 pm

Joining in a conversation

You hear your friends talking about the latest movie. You walk up to them, wait for a moment when no one is talking, and greet them and say, “Hey, have you guys seen “The Movie” yet?” wait for an answer, then you can say, “Maybe we could all go on Saturday?’


redbud23                                                                                                             September 5, 2018 at 2:21 pm

Asking for help

You want to prepare lunch in the microwave at school but you don’t know how to use it. Go to a teacher & ask for help.


rmaikels                                                                                                             September 5, 2018 at 12:47 pm

Joining in a conversation

You hear your sister telling your parents about something cool that happened at school today. You are really excited about it as well and want to add some details. Use the joining a conversation skill.


Charles                                                                                                             September 4, 2018 at 7:45 pm

Asking for help

You are wanting to heat up a pie for lunch using the microwave at school but you don’t know how to use it. Go to a teacher or adult and use the asking for help skill.


Lindsay Muncey                                                                                                             September 4, 2018 at 2:47 pm

Asking for help

You’re in a crowded lunch room and need help opening a container in your lunchbox. Find an adult, carry your lunch container over to them and complete steps 1-4.


Iantha                                                                                                             September 1, 2018 at 6:39 pm

Asking for help

You go to the store and need help finding something that is no longer in the spot it would normally be located. So then you would use the asking for help skill.


Jill                                                                                                             September 1, 2018 at 1:36 pm

Asking for help

You are at the Gap to buy jeans and notice that they are out of your size. You wonder if there might be another pair in the back. Use steps 1-4 to ask a sales associate to check for you.


AmyK9340                                                                                                             August 28, 2018 at 6:08 pm

Asking for help

You are want to ask a girl to the dance but you are feeling anxious on what to say. You think your mom may be able to give you good advice. Use the Asking for Help Skill.


Meredith                                                                                                             August 28, 2018 at 3:20 pm

Asking for help

You are in the hallway during passing period and you cannot find your next class. A teacher is standing in front of a door across the hallway.


BarbsAbalos                                                                                                             August 27, 2018 at 3:41 am

Other social skill

Holding or sharing a thought

1. You think of something you feel the urge to share out loud
2. Look to see who is around
3. Think of what thoughts and feelings they could have in response to what you’re going to say
4. Decide to keep it to yourself or share out loud

You’re with your family watching a movie outdoors with many other people around. You don’t understand something about the movie and want to ask your mom, who is sitting about 10 feet from you with other relatives. Follow steps 1 through 4 to determine if you should ask her or wait.


Danelle4                                                                                                             August 24, 2018 at 6:04 pm

Joining in a conversation

You are walking to your next class and hear a group of kids talking about (tv show). You just watched the latest episode and are interested in what the kids thought about it. Use the joining in on a conversation skill.


Leana                                                                                                             August 23, 2018 at 2:38 pm

Asking for help

You are at school and it is lunch time. You don’t know where your lunchbox is.
1. Go to an adult (teacher).
2. Look at him/her, state you problem, and ask them for help.
3. Thank the person for helping you.


gcastleman                                                                                                             August 23, 2018 at 1:26 pm

Asking for help

You go to the cabinet to get your favorite snack, but it is on a shelf too high for you to reach. Find someone tall enough and then Follow steps 1-4 to get help!


Claire                                                                                                             August 21, 2018 at 1:05 pm

Joining in a conversation

You arrive into school and some of your classmates are talking together in the yard. Approach them and use your ‘Joining a conversation vignette’ to ‘join in’.


cierramcpeak                                                                                                             August 21, 2018 at 12:19 pm

Asking for help

you are hungry and want an orange, but you do not know how to peel it. Your older brother can help you, use the asking for help skills


Mary Hull                                                                                                             August 18, 2018 at 2:59 pm

Asking for help

You are in the kitchen at home and you want a glass of milk. The carton is too heavy for you to lift and pour. Your big sister could help you. Use the asking for help skill.


StavrosBCBA                                                                                                             August 14, 2018 at 9:12 pm

Asking for help

You are hungry and want to eat some spaghettiOs but your parents aren’t home and you don’t know how to use a can opener. You look for one of your siblings who is home and use the Asking for Help skill.


pr2116@tc.columbia.edu                                                                                                             August 13, 2018 at 2:46 pm

Asking for help

You are at the library and want to find your favorite Spy School series books but unsure where to locate the books. You reach out to a librarian for assistance using your “asking for help” skill.


lsrosner                                                                                                             August 10, 2018 at 3:49 pm

Joining in a conversation

1. You hear your friends talking about the Shopkins Shoppie that you want to buy. You want to talk with them about it. Use the Joining in on a Conversation Skill


Yit Ling Elaine Soh                                                                                                             August 8, 2018 at 7:03 pm

Asking for help

Your dad has just switched to a new TV and network service provider. The menus and channels have changed from the previous service provider. You are frustrated with not being able to watch your favorite TV show. Use the Asking for Help skill.


Elizabeth Greenhagen                                                                                                             August 8, 2018 at 9:29 am

Joining in a conversation

You see your friends playing a game, ___, that you know how to play well. They are misunderstanding the _______ and you want to it explain it to them. Use the Joining In on a conversation skill.


christydgarner99                                                                                                             August 7, 2018 at 4:37 pm

Asking for help

You are at the Dollar Tree and want to buy a card for your special friend. You have some money, but are not sure how much money you need. You think your staff can help you count your money. Use the Asking for Help Skill.


Emily                                                                                                             August 6, 2018 at 2:14 pm

Joining in a conversation

You hear your friends talking about a game you like but they don’t know the game rules. You know the rules to the game! Join the conversation and teach them the rules. Maybe you can then play with them!


Jill                                                                                                             August 5, 2018 at 1:34 pm

Asking for help

You would like to make a bowl of cereal but there are no clean bowls in the cabinet. There are a bunch of bowls in the dishwasher but you are not sure if they are clean or dirty. Use your asking for help skills to solve your problem.


CPemelton                                                                                                             August 1, 2018 at 8:40 pm

Joining in a conversation

Your classmates are discussing your favorite sitcom and you want to contribute….joining in a conversation skills


tawamuna2018                                                                                                             July 27, 2018 at 11:26 pm

Joining in a conversation

Your friends are talking about what to bring for show and tell Friday…you want to let them know what you will bring…
approach and begin steps in joining a conversation


Katie                                                                                                             July 26, 2018 at 9:21 am

Asking for help

You are playing soccer with some neighbors and your shoe comes untied. You don’t want to trip, but you don’t know how to tie shoes. Use your asking for help skill.


Brianda                                                                                                             July 17, 2018 at 8:51 pm

Joining in a conversation

Your friends are talking during lunch. They are discussing your favorite TV Show! You want to intervene. Use your Joining a Conversation Skill.


Lilloopie61888                                                                                                             July 17, 2018 at 5:25 pm

Asking for help

You’re at the grocery store and need to buy dog food for your pet dog, but you can’t seem to find the correct brand. Use your asking for help skill


jwolfe                                                                                                             July 17, 2018 at 1:25 pm

Asking for help

You are hemming some pants on a new sewing machine but you can’t get the bobbin to work. Your grandmother, who is an experienced seamstress is sitting near by. Use the asking for help skill.


atrader                                                                                                             July 13, 2018 at 3:36 pm

Joining in a conversation

Your classmates are talking about solving their Rubik’s cubes. You know of a website that will walk you through the process and you want to tell your classmates about it. Use the joining in a conversation skill to tell your classmates about the website.


woodallkids                                                                                                             July 10, 2018 at 7:56 pm

Asking for help

You really want to eat some cereal but the box is too high on the shelf for you to reach. You see your parents in the kitchen, use your asking for help skill.


Alice                                                                                                             July 6, 2018 at 3:24 pm

Asking for help

You are watching TV with your brother. It is your turn to pick a show, but your brother sits on to the remote. You try negotiating with your brother but your brother sticks his tongue out at you and puts his hand up like he will hit you if you try to take the remote. Use the Asking for Help Skill.


janell.bcba                                                                                                             July 3, 2018 at 8:21 pm

Asking for help

You are at the store with your friends and are looking for a particular item that you cannot seem to find. You see a store clerk in the next aisle over stocking the shelves. Use the asking for help skill.


AmyGriff                                                                                                             June 25, 2018 at 4:42 pm

Joining in a conversation

Two peers at lunch are talking about the upcoming science fair and what their projects will be. You are also participating in the science fair and want to share what you will be doing for your project. How do you join the conversation?


Jonathan                                                                                                             June 25, 2018 at 2:49 pm

Joining in a conversation

You arrive to school and are walking the track prior to the start of the school day. You hear two students discussing a television show that you really like to watch and would like to talk to them about it. What is something you could say to join in the conversation about your favorite show?


Victoria Lee                                                                                                             June 18, 2018 at 5:48 pm

Joining in a conversation

You are the new girl in school and the first recess began. You see a group of girls nearby who are in your class and they are talking about the new movie you saw this week. Use the joining in a conversation skill.


Jeryn                                                                                                             June 12, 2018 at 4:46 pm

Asking for help

You are on the playground and your shoe comes untied. You try to tie it by yourself, but it does not work. You become frustrated and want to yell. You see an adult nearby. Use the Asking For Help skill.


edendavis                                                                                                             June 12, 2018 at 9:59 am

Joining in a conversation

Shelby and Lauren are deciding what to play on the playground. You have a great idea for what to play. There is a pause in conversation. What is something that you can say so they know what your idea is? Then allow for them to give their opinions on playing that game.


cstabile                                                                                                             May 29, 2018 at 8:25 pm

Asking for help

You are in the lunch room.and you are getting mad because you spilled your milk, which you like. The lunch lady is walking around, how do you ask for help. Is raising your hand a good idea?


Jvancil                                                                                                             May 20, 2018 at 8:14 pm

Joining in a conversation

You are in class and hear your friends talking about what they did last weekend. You are interested in what they did and want to share what you_______ last weekend. Use the joining a conversation skill to discuss last weekend.


jdrohan                                                                                                             May 20, 2018 at 7:50 pm

Joining in a conversation

1. You are at a birthday party and hear the other kids talk about what they bought for the birthday child. You want to tell them that you bought _____ for the birthday child. Use the Joining in on a Conversation Skill.


Kristina                                                                                                             May 19, 2018 at 1:19 pm

Asking for help

You are reviewing your class notes and realize you didn’t take thorough notes about one of the topics. You know someone else in your class who always takes thorough notes. You see that person studying in the library. Use the Asking for Help Skill.


Julie                                                                                                             May 16, 2018 at 7:51 pm

Other social skill

Offering to Help

Instructions
Model
Rehearsal
Feedback

Your grandma just had surgery on her knee. She is sitting on a chair and states that she is thirsty. Use an offering help to help skill.


yogafish                                                                                                             May 10, 2018 at 1:18 am

Joining in a conversation

At lunchtime, you heard your friends talking about where to go for a bike ride. You want to go too. Use the Joining in a Conversation Skill.


Emily                                                                                                             May 9, 2018 at 6:16 pm

Joining in a conversation

You hear your friends talking about their favorite superheros. You like superheros too so you want to talk with them about it. Use the Joining in a Conversation Skill.


rabbott                                                                                                             May 9, 2018 at 2:20 pm

Joining in a conversation

At recess, you overhear two peers talking about going to the mall after school. Your favorite store _____ is at that mall. You want to suggest to them to check out that store. Use the Joining in a Conversation Skill.


blamont                                                                                                             May 6, 2018 at 2:40 pm

Joining in a conversation

You just joined a karate class club and don’t know anyone. You see a couple of kids you think may be cool and over hear them talking about _______ (preferred subject). You would like to go over to talk to them. Use the Joining in on a Conversation Skill.


Reid Spector                                                                                                             May 4, 2018 at 11:28 am

Joining in a conversation

You are at the corner store and the kids in line ahead of you are talking about how much the like their new toys they got from the toy store. You want to know what the toy is and what it can do. Use the Joining in on a Conversation Skill.


edingerk                                                                                                             April 28, 2018 at 3:30 pm

Asking for help

You had to leave the classroom to go to the bathroom. When you return, the class is working on another activity. You know you should be doing what the class is doing, but don’t know what. Your classmates are working on the current activity. Use Asking for help, to ask a classmate for help.


natcliften                                                                                                             April 26, 2018 at 10:33 pm

Other social skill

Sportsmanship

1. instruction
2. model
3. rehearsal
4. feedback

1. You are playing Super Smash Brothers on the Wii with your friend. This is your very favorite game and you are really good at it. You are beating your friend the entire time up until the last second when he scores 20 extra points and defeats your character. You are really upset that you lost. Use your sportsmanship skill.


Rachel Greene                                                                                                             April 21, 2018 at 8:39 am

Joining in a conversation

You are at the park with your parents. Some other kids are using the seesaw. You want to have a turn.


amberinboise                                                                                                             April 16, 2018 at 6:44 pm

Asking for help

You ordered a bowl of ice cream and it was handed to you. You cannot find a spoon to eat it with and need one. You see a girl with a spoon that just got her ice cream before you and think she may be able to help you.


Egennaricrosby                                                                                                             April 16, 2018 at 4:44 pm

Joining in a conversation

You sit down at lunch before the Christmas break. Your friends are talk about what they want for Christmas. One friend says they hope they get a new bicycle. You really hope you also get a new bicycle, and asked Santa for one already. How would you join the conversation?


Jenna Bartley                                                                                                             April 16, 2018 at 3:44 pm

Asking for help

You are getting ready to brush your teeth. You pick up your toothbrush and the toothpaste. You squeeze the toothpaste but the toothpaste is not coming out of the tube. You are feeling cross that the toothpaste is not coming out. Use your asking for help skill.


anvinnie                                                                                                             April 11, 2018 at 1:42 pm

Asking for help

Everyone is taking turns washing their hands before lunch. When you get to the front of the line, you have a hard time pumping the soap out because the bottle is almost empty. You are feeling frustrated and hungry. Use your asking for help skill.


Ulrika                                                                                                             April 10, 2018 at 2:07 pm

Asking for help

You are at work, used the vending machine and it ate your money.
1. State to the cafeteria worker what happened.
2. Ask for help to write note to the vending machine person.
3. Place note on the vending machine.
4. Return to get money from the cafeteria worker the following day


Allison                                                                                                             April 9, 2018 at 10:31 am

Other social skill

Responding to Teasing

1. Stop and count to five.
2. Think about your choices:
a. Ignore the teasing.
b. Say how you feel.
c. Give a reason for the person to stop.
3. Act out your best choice.

You are so excited to show your new HP Laptop during show-and-tell. One of the kids in the front row in class laughs at you and says that his MacBook Pro is way better and that HP Laptops are for “nerds”. What do you do in this situation?


Camilla Marks                                                                                                             April 6, 2018 at 10:27 am

Joining in a conversation

Your friends are sitting down to eat lunch. They are talking about yesterday’s football match against another school. Your team won the match. You love talking about football and how you all play like different football stars.


elitcadm                                                                                                             March 31, 2018 at 12:19 pm

Joining in a conversation

It is Easter weekend and you hear your grandmother and mother talking about what to make for dessert for dinner. You love the chocolate cake your grandmother makes and would like to make that suggestion. Use the Joining in a Conversation vignette.


Katherine                                                                                                             March 31, 2018 at 8:52 am

Asking for help

You need to catch the bus but you do not know which one you need to take. There is a person sitting at the information desk, use the Asking for Help skill to figure out which bus to take


SIQIXIE                                                                                                             March 27, 2018 at 9:41 am

Asking for help

You are looking for a place, but get lost. You see someone in police uniform standing nearby. You ask the policeman to give you the right direction to the place. You say thank you, and follow his direction.


Stacia Parmenter                                                                                                             March 21, 2018 at 10:42 am

Asking for help

You are looking for a bathroom at the water park. You see someone with a name tag on at the water park. You walk up to the employee and ask them where the restroom is. You tell the employee thanks and walk to the restroom they pointed out.


anna.kristin87                                                                                                             March 14, 2018 at 9:16 am

Asking for help

You are at the grocery store and you have apples on your list. You have looked around the produce section but you can’t seem to find the apples. You see an employee wearing a name tag and the store logo. You walk over and say, “excuse me, can you pleas show me where the apples are?”


Andrea                                                                                                             February 28, 2018 at 10:34 am

Asking for help

You are in the grocery store looking for ___ (food item) and cannot find the item. You see an employee of the store stocking a shelf. Use the asking for help skill.


d2238853                                                                                                             February 6, 2018 at 10:48 pm

Joining in a conversation

You check LINE to see if your friends are talking about where and when to play badminton today. One of your friends posts “who would like to play, please respond”. You want to express what you wish for.


llwatson1985                                                                                                             January 29, 2018 at 5:20 am

Joining in a conversation

You are eating at the school lunch table. There are 2 other children talking. First, wait for both of them to take a break from talking. Second, make a comment on something they said. Third, Wait for them to say about what you said, or an additional comment about what they were talking about.


Kira Richardson                                                                                                             January 17, 2018 at 10:29 pm

Joining in a conversation

You hear your classmates discussing a level of your favorite video game that you haven’t reached yet, you want to talk to them about it. Use the joining in a conversation vignette.


taylorcalame                                                                                                             January 17, 2018 at 1:11 pm

Joining in a conversation

You hear a friend mention that they like Star Wars, and you know the new movie comes out to theaters this weekend. Use the Joining a Conversation Vignette.


Madoka                                                                                                             January 16, 2018 at 12:05 am

Joining in a conversation

You are in your class and are hanging up your bookbag and coat. You notice that one of your friends, Mark, walking into the classroom looking sad. You want to help Mark. Use your joining in on a conversation skill.


Sarah                                                                                                             January 12, 2018 at 11:28 am

Asking for help

You are in class and it is time for snack. You can’t open your bag of chips. A teacher is near you. Look at the teacher and ask for help. Let the teacher know you need help opening your chips. Thank the teacher for helping you.


Kylie                                                                                                             January 9, 2018 at 8:45 pm

Asking for help

Your teacher is at their desk. You walk over to the desk and say, “Can you help me?”. You don’t understand how to finish a worksheet and need help with the instructions. Your teachers helps you and you say “thank you”.


takema.bcba                                                                                                             January 4, 2018 at 6:17 pm

Joining in a conversation

You hear your friends talking about what they want for their birthday. You want to tell them what you want. Use the join in conversation skill.


alex                                                                                                             January 1, 2018 at 4:51 pm

Other social skill

Say “hello”

1)To go to someone
2)Wait to get an eye contact
3)Give a hand and say “hello”

You notice a someone you know. You go to this person, wait to get an eye contact, give a hand and say “hello”


Danusia                                                                                                             December 31, 2017 at 4:22 pm

Other social skill

Initiating a conversation with a girl you’re attracted to.

1. Read the social situation. Is the person available to talk?
2. Reading body language. Is the person receptive, or giving you signals you can approach?
3. Small talk scripts, previewed and rehearsed.

You see a girl you’re taking a class with who is standing outside the classroom alone before the class starts. Use you reading social situations, reading body language and small talk scripts.


Alyssa                                                                                                             December 31, 2017 at 4:11 pm

Other social skill

Initiating a Greeting

1. Locate desired person in which you want to converse with
2. Wait until they are in close proximity and visually available (OR, if they are talking to someone, wait for a pause in conversation)
3. Provide an appropriate greeting and/or phrase with eye contact (i.e., hey, hello, hi__(name of person).)
4. Wait for greeting to be reciprocated

Dan notices that Evan is sitting at the lunch table next to their mutual friend Luke. Evan and Luke were laughing, but once at least 2-3 seconds went by of no one talking, Dan said, “Hey! Can I sit with you guys?” Both boys say, “of course, sit down, Dan!”


Valerie                                                                                                             December 13, 2017 at 11:38 am

Asking for help

The teacher gives instructions on how to complete the assignment but you were distracted and did not pay attention. Everyone else is working on the assignment now but you are not sure what to do. Use the asking for help skill.